Breaking the Retirement Setpoint
Retirement is often seen as a time to slow down, focus on practicalities like finances and healthcare, and step away from the working world. But the real question is: is your vision for retirement shaped by where you are now or by where you truly want to go?
Without reflection, it’s easy to default to what’s familiar—settling into comfort zones, societal expectations, and avoiding risk. We can allow perceived obstacles to block our path forward. But what if your retirement could be an exciting new chapter full of purpose and fulfillment? Let’s explore how to break free of these limits and craft a meaningful vision for your future.
Setpoint: Your Emotional Anchor
We all have an emotional setpoint—a baseline of comfort shaped by our habits, past experiences, and external pressures. As you approach retirement, this setpoint can often hold you back from exploring new possibilities. Studies from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology show that people over 50 tend to avoid risk, making it harder to step away from familiar patterns.
Recognizing when your setpoint is driving your choices is vital to expanding your vision for retirement. It’s not just about playing it safe; it’s about asking whether comfort is keeping you from exploring your true desires.
Action Step: Reflect on your retirement vision and ask, “Am I choosing comfort over what I really want?” Write down one small step you can take today that pulls you toward your vision and beyond your current setpoint, and revisit it in a week.
Fear of Risk and the Unknown
Facing the unknown in retirement can trigger feelings of fear and loss—whether it's fear of leaving behind a structured career or stepping into unfamiliar territory. The Journal of Aging Studies notes that many retirees become more risk-averse, often driven by a desire for security.
But while caution is natural, holding on to fear can shrink your vision. Instead of asking, “What could go wrong?” try reframing it as, “What could bring me joy or fulfillment?”
Action Step: Identify one area where fear is holding you back from embracing change. Think about what you could gain from taking a calculated risk in that area, whether it’s pursuing a passion, trying something new, or even starting a second career.
Breaking Free from Societal Norms
Society has long dictated what retirement should look like—slowing down, taking it easy, and stepping out of the spotlight. These societal norms can create invisible barriers that prevent you from pursuing the vision you truly want. The Stanford Center on Longevity reports that many retirees feel pressured to follow a “traditional” model of retirement, leading to feelings of disengagement.
If you envision an active, engaged future, it’s essential to challenge these societal expectations. Retirement can be anything you make it—a time for adventure, learning, or giving back.
Action Step: Take a moment to question the societal expectations around retirement that you’ve absorbed. Are they aligned with your values? If not, how can you break free and create a vision that resonates with your true goals?
Reconnecting with Your Core Values
As we move through life, it’s easy to lose sight of the values that once guided us. Career demands, family obligations, and external pressures can gradually pull us away from our core truths. By the time we reach retirement, many of us have become disconnected from what truly brings us fulfillment.
As the Harvard Business Review notes, “The most important work as we age isn’t behind us; it’s the work of realigning with who we truly are.” Taking time to reflect on your values and reconnect with them can help you craft a more intentional, fulfilling future.
Action Step: Revisit the core values that have been important to you throughout your life. Are they present in your current vision for retirement? If not, how can you realign your future goals with those values?
Change and Curiosity: Mindset Matters
While it’s often assumed that older adults are more resistant to change, research shows this isn’t always the case. The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that individuals who maintain curiosity and engage in new experiences are more open to change, regardless of age. It’s not about avoiding change; it’s about staying open to new possibilities with the right mindset.
Action Step: Cultivate curiosity by trying something new. Whether it’s a new hobby, travel destination, or creative project, curiosity can keep you open to new experiences and growth in retirement.
Crafting a Future by Design, Not Default
Your retirement vision can be shaped by where you want to go, not just by where you are now. By breaking free of emotional setpointsyou can craft a retirement that feels intentional, exciting, and aligned with your true purpose. Don’t settle for a future by default—design a future that fulfills you.
Conflux Retirement Coaching is about merging the best of who you are with who you want to be. Is that invisible barrier, that roadblock to possibilities, impacting your vision of what life in retirement could hold for you? Schedule a complimentary discovery call with me, and let’s begin to answer that question together.
